Being the father of these four children is my most exciting learning experience.
They were born with their own unique characters.
They are very curious and sharp in seeing what their parents do. They mirror the behavior they observe, then they express the behavior in their own way. To influence them, for me, "Keep what we promised" and "Do what we said" are the two most effective approaches. But, these approaches do not apply to TV, Movie and Internet. If I am not paying enough attention on them, my role will be replaced by the characters played in the popular TV series.
Every situation is a golden opportunity to strengthen our relationship.
My experience is: When they spotted our mistake, never try to reason or to justify our mistake with them, just be honest to ourselves and acknowledge our mistake and say to them: "dear, this is a really a bad thing for me to do, I am sorry." and be cautious not to repeat the same mistake again as they are always watching :) I find this is more effective (in strengthening our relationship) than trying to justify our mistake to them.
Cheers! Have a great day!
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